Well, I’m a woman so I do have some relationship advice for men, but I am not completely sure the men out there will like it! Being a woman, you will not hear me claim that many of us are nuts or we all love shoes and chocolates (a number of us do, but just like men, we’re all different and don’t appreciate being all lumped into the same category as almost every other woman on this planet).
Would you like it if you were dumped into the same category as every other man that your girlfriend was involved with? So, my first piece of relationship advice for men is to get to know each woman in your life. Treat her such as the individual she is and not some cross between your mother and a porn star. It often may seem like men almost never see women as individuals but as some fantasy. Should you be doing this, you ought to knock it off.
Deal with your girlfriend or wife like you would your friends… only better. Value her, trust her. If you truly can’t trust her because she’s demonstrated she is not trustworthy than maybe you should just end the relationship. It’s not good to remain in a relationship with somebody you simply can’t trust.
Don’t expect your girlfriend or wife to understand why you are so hesitant to discuss what is going on in your head. That is a very common problem. It is a fact that women tend to be more communicative, men tend to have more of a “I’ll handle it myself” sort of thing. Women are built to want to make things better and so are men. We just do it in different ways. Women like you to talk about your problems and open up to them. It makes them feel like you trust them and love them.
Men try to “fix” things. Sometimes a woman may not really like to have a guy try to “fix” things, after all, they are smart and capable and they can do it them self. What they often do like is to feel like their guy cares about what they are dealing with. So, if your girlfriend or wife complains about their boss, for example, they probably aren’t expecting that you run off and beat him up, they only want to vent and want you to listen and act like you care. That’s all. It truly isn’t that hard, is it?
And yes, guys, women really do have PMS and it’s all well and good for you to laugh about this, but since you have not experienced anything like it, it may be better for you to just shut up. In all honesty, would you like it if your girlfriend laughed if you got hit in the “family jewels”? How would you feel if she said that “it can’t really hurt that much” or that you’re “just using that as an excuse to be a witch”?
Since no woman could ever really know what that pain feels like, it appears kind of odd that any woman should comment on it, doesn’t it? The same holds true for you, guys. Since you have never had to deal with the “weirdness” (and yes, it’s weird to us too. You don’t think we enjoy going through the pain and the hormone fluctuations every month?) you probably should just let it rest be and not focus on it like you really know what it’s about.
I am hoping this relationship advice for men helps. If it saves just one relationship between two people who really love (but don’t quite understand) one another, it will be worth it!
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